Ce să le spunem copiilor când în lume se întâmplă tragedii
Vinerea trecută la noi în Saskatchewan, într-un oraș cu 3000 de locuitori, un adolescent a împușcat 4 oameni într-o școală.
De la noi de acasă până la granița cu Saskatchewan sunt doar 2800 de kilometri. N-am calculat exact cât e până în orașul cu pricina. Spre deosebire de vecinii din US unde zilnic se împușcă oameni dacă nu în școli, măcar la mall, aici nu se prea întâmplă chestii de genul ăsta. Adică se împușcă și la noi pe străzi, și-n Toronto și la noi la țară, dar parcă nu chiar așa rău.
Mă rog, să trecem. Pentru că vuiesc ziarele și teveurile despre această chestie mega-șocantă, inspectoratul școlar ne-a trimis un mail în care ne învață cum să procedăm cu copiii când se întâmplă nefăcute de felul ăsta. Mi s-au părut informații utile așa că iată, vi le împărtășesc.
“We are all shocked and saddened by the tragic events that transpired in La Loche, Sask. on Friday. Our thoughts are with all those affected. Although events like this are extremely rare, we recognize the impact they can have on each of us—our children, staff, families and friends. Individuals react to situations like this in various ways. We may feel sadness, grief, helplessness, anxiety and anger. Whatever we feel is okay.
Our social work team has prepared some tips to help support children at this time:
- Recognize that children may become concerned that something bad will happen to themselves, family or friends. Explain that safety measures are in place and reassure them that you and other adults will take care of them.
- If your child is not focused on the tragedy, do not dwell on it. Try to avoid having detailed adult conversations regarding the tragedy in front of children. However, be available to answer questions to the best of your ability. Young children may not be able to express themselves verbally. Pay attention to changes in their behaviour or social interactions.
- Limit exposure to media coverage. Images of a disaster or crisis can become overwhelming, especially if watched repetitively. Young children in particular may not be able to distinguish between images on television and their personal reality. Older children may choose to watch the news—be available to discuss what they see and to help put it into perspective.
- Maintain normal family routines as much as possible. Routine family activities, classes and friends can help children feel more secure.
- Be aware of your own needs. Don’t ignore your own feelings of anxiety, grief and anger. Talking to friends, family members, faith leaders and mental health counsellors can help. Let your children know you are sad. You will be better able to support them if you can express your own emotions in a productive manner.
As always, our top priority is the safety and well-being of our students and staff. This is a responsibility we take very seriously. It’s important for you to know that help is available through our schools. If you are concerned about your child or feel he or she needs additional support, and you would like to speak with a social worker or psychoeducational consultant, please contact your principal or vice-principal. Thank you for supporting our students and each other.